30 December 2009
By Amber
In Life
I have this feeling of anticipation and excitement for the new year, anyone else?
I’m excited for a whole year with a husband, lets face it I’m not good alone. I’m ready for change again not a new years resolution this is me fulfilling who I want to be who God made me to be. This is me taking control (with God of course) and not letting others control my life for me. I’m a people pleaser and while that can be a good thing for me its not.
I’m excited to get some major work on the house done. I have plans for a friend to come over on the 16th and finish painting the living room and hang pictures. Then in March we will be hopefully redoing the upstairs bathroom, yea! No more pink!!!
I’ll be posting pictures the whole time I hope to post more of my own pics this year.
Amber
30 December 2009
By Amber
In Life
So after yesterdays post I got to thinking about who I’m not here is the run down:
I’m not a good speller, I never will be.
I’m not a girly girl although I enjoy getting all dressed up from time to time.
I’m not great when plans change (although I’m getting better)
I’m not very patient with people who don’t understand simple concepts
I’m not made to be a couch potato, my body shuts down, yet I do it all the time.
30 December 2009
By Amber
In Goals, Thoughts on Thursdays
“New Year, New Marriage”
Its the end of 2009 and I’m excited for 2010! This is a time for new starts and resolutions so how about this one “I resolve to make my marriage better this year.” This doesn’t mean its bad now but it can always get better right? Here are some ideas:
1. Have a designated time a week of quality time together (my parents have been doing this for the past few years.)
2. Look through your marriage and make a plan to improve one thing (communication anyone?)
3. Study the Bible together.
4. Find a hobby you both like to do.
5. Go out on a ‘real’ date more often.
6. De clutter your lives from the need of stuff.
Anyone else have an idea or two?
23 December 2009
By Amber
In Faith, Search for Significance, Thoughts on Thursdays
Humm so I was reading my book again (“The Search for Significance” by Robert S. McGee) and once sentence really hit me not just for spiritual reasons but for relationship reasons. Here it is ” Conviction deals with your behavior, not our status before God.”( pg133 in the new version)
This is also, I believe, how we should view our marriages. We need to understand that when our spouse is correcting or asking us to change something it doesn’t affect their love for us its simply a behavior that needs adjustment. I have a bad habit of forgetting where I placed my phone and it drives my husband nuts however I know that when he points it out to me he doesn’t love me any less he just doesn’t want to spend money on a new phone.
However I have a harder time accepting that reality when he is pointing out my tone or something like that. Then it is much harder to remember the ‘love’ part and go straight to feeling guilty. This changes how I think he views my ‘status’ when in fact it does not. He still loves me just the same but he is trying to improve our communication.
Guilt refers to our status and how we think others feel about us.
Conviction is without guilt it doesn’t change our status there is just room for improvement.
Wow, that could change marriages right there. If we could train ourselves to view things this way….If we could simply remember throughout the corrections and annoyances that you still love each other and your are only trying to better the marriage not tear each other apart or blame them for everything. We also make sure we are approaching things this way, building the marriage not tearing it down.
22 December 2009
By Amber
In Faith, Friends, Goals, Green, Life
It seems like it is impossible to make personal goals (loose weight, eat better, get in the Word more, and so on) and keep them so starting today I have a new approach. I’m going to map out who I want to be and then when I’m tempted to deviate I’ll ask myself if it lines up with that “person.”
Now understand I’m not trying to change my whole personality I like who I am in general but I feel like there are some parts of my life that I got 1/2 way to my goal and then became stagnant. These are things that I care about but seem to be stuck. So here is a rough draft of “Who I want to be”
I would like to be a Spirit led Bible fed, Godly wife. I want to eat not just healthy but quality foods that will enhance my life not take away from it. I want to take care of the earth in any practical way I can without becoming a full blown “nut.” I want to take care of the body that God has given me by not sitting down all day, playing with the dog and exercising. I would like to stop being so materialistic and focus on the things that really matter and de-clutter my life. I want to be a friend that people know they can count on. I would also like to continue to improve my interpreting skill and not just be content with where I’m at.
Ok so there you have it I’m gong to tweak it and start applying it today. Here is to a new start to my old adventure.
Amber
