This is really something that could be applied to everyone in your life not just your spouse. In fact the reason this came to mind this week was not because of my husband but because of someone else.

If you have a problem with someone, or maybe you don’t like how they do something , you need to be direct with them. Don’t go gossiping to all of your friends in an effort to “get some advice.” Go to them, talk with them directly. Make sure you have thought out your ‘problem’ so you can explain it clearly and then let them know. Often times that person won’t even have realized that they were offending you, it could have been a situation miss interpreted and a simple conversation can clear it all up. Or if it is a bigger problem then at least you are opening a dialog with them first, not causing more problems by taking it to friends/family/management whatever. If the situation is confronted and still not solved then its time to take it to the next level (whatever that maybe.) 

There are other times where being honest with someone is hard not because they have offended you but because you don’t want to offend them. Maybe they spent good money on a gift for you and it just isn’t your style. Instead of letting their money go to waste you want to exchange it for something you can cherish from them. What do you do? Ishh this is a hard one your response is going to  differ for each individual but you should still talk about it with them. That way when they ask  where is your new _____? Your not making up a lie to avoid the topic.

Just being honest with those around you will keep you out of sticky situations and will possibly solve small issues before they become big ones.

Now I would like to  do a disclaimer here, if someone is harming you or you see them harming someone else or themselves don’t feel like you have to confront them, You might be able to based on the situation but the best action maybe to take it to the police or whoever is appropriate.

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I’ve been reaping great rewards from my garden this year (yea!) and wanted to share a few ways with you that you can keep your garden green.

• If you have a container garden, use recycled containers instead of new ones. If you don’t want to use old things from around the house buy ones made of recycled material.
• Use a rain barrel, you can check out my home made one here and there are plenty of websites with different designs.

• Water early in the morning or after the sun goes down to prevent evaporation.
• If have have a large garden and a watering can isn’t an option use a soaker hose instead of a sprinkler.
• Use mulch, wood chips, compost anything really to help retain moisture.
• You can use biodegradable paper bags (from the grocery store) as a weed barrier between and around plants.

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Well a new season is upon us, the school year is starting and the State Fair is this weekend so I guess that means its time for something new on the blog too.

Who out there just wants to be healthier, maybe lose a little weight? I do, and I’ve talked about it alot on here. So its time to do something tangible, something I’m accountable to. Its time for Report Card Mondays.

Every week I will post up how I did in my goal areas these are mine for September:

• Push-Ups
• Push-Ups In a row
• Balance Ball Push-Ups
• BB Push-Ups in a row
• Pull-Ups
• Sit-Ups
• Sit-Ups in a row
• Cardio
• Run 2 Miles in
• Stretching/Core
• Weight

 Each week I will remind you what my monthly goals are, tell you how I did and also share some of the recipes I used that week the good the bad and the ugly. I’m trying to he whole natural foods that I  cook, but I will use some pre-cooked or created meals if time becomes limited.

Oh did I mention I have a cruise coming up in May? Well I do, and that may be some extra motivation, I also plan on leaning how to snowboard this winter and would like to be fit enough to be able to do it. Humm I think that about covers it.

See you next Monday with my first report card.

Oh PS this was inspired by my friend S who has lost 30lbs and is working on staying there and my old high school friend J who has lost 85lbs and reports everyday on her blog.

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Accountability, Exercise, Report Card

I wasn’t going to post today, didn’t really have anything to say, but then something happened.

It was an Innocent lunch comment, “I like your hair, its darker right?” Yep sure enough, but then it got my brain going. I started to think of some recent events, getting my nails done often, caring about my hair.Wanting to work on my house and projects for it. Running, showering and then styling my hair just for dinner with the in laws (at there house.) I care again!!!

I’ve struggled with depression in varying degrees. After Mark passed away it was pretty bad, then I moved back near my family and met Ryan (who was still in MN) and things were good again. Then right before we got married, it got hard. I didn’t know why at the time but now I know it was guilt. I felt bad for moving on with my life and for being happy.

I know that Mac was at a loss but he stuck by me for the last 2 years of crazy emotional depressed Amber and now I’m back. Maybe not 100% but enough that I noticed! I’m so excited. I’m not even sure if this post makes sense but aghhhh. I care again!

Thanks to everyone who stuck with me. Mom and Dad, Mac for sure, all of the ‘girls’ in my life. My SIL Becky cuz she was the only other peroson to live with me during this time and of course my brother Seth and all my family.

THANK YOU!

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depression, Happy Thoughts, Thank you