Its the holiday season, our already crazy lives are now fully chaotic and I’ve needed a little extra help, and Mac has stepped in and saved the day several times. We each have or ‘normal things’ but last night when I got back form a meeting he had Apple completly packed for daycare, cloth diapers, clothes, wet bag and bottles preped… I was floored I got to come home and relax for a whole 30 min before bed….it was amazing.
Sometimes we all need a little extra help, when you see a need step in and fill it.
I’ve written many times about how important it is for us as couples to say positive things to each other. So once again I’m going to take over my blog for personal use
Mac 5 months ago we started a new adventure, parenting. I love what it has brought out in you, yes even the over protective crazy Dad stuff. I love seeing you play with Apple, how excited you are every time you get her to giggle. I love that you worry she is too cold, or too hot.
I love that you seem more aware of my needs and are so willing to help out at nights so that I can also get a good nights sleep. I just plain love seeing you as a dad.
I love you,
I have a job I love, I’m a sign language interpreter. Through this job I get an intimate look at many peoples family dynamics and because of that I appreciate my family even more. There are a lot of families out there who just don’t treat each other ‘right’ in my opinion. This is one of those posts that could go on forever so instead I’ll do a list of some of the wonderful quality’s I see in my family I’m talking parents, in-laws and siblings here.
- We genuinely listen to each other
- We enjoy hanging out together
- We know how to have fun whether its a night at the theater or a night home playing cards.
- Support during the hard times
- A loving kick in the butt when needed
- Acts of love, (Man can Mac’s mom cook!)
- Teaches vs enabling
Right now EVERYONE is posting their daily thanks on facebook and writing posts on their blogs. I love it, but I wonder why we don’t do it all year? I know that is the point of our modern Thanksgiving, but how would our life be different if we took time everyday to think of the things we are grateful for? Well I can’t hold us all accountable for every day but I can check in every month!
So that is what I’m going to do, I’ll post on the things I’m thankful for the rest of this month and then from now on once a month I’ll be checking in and sharing what I’m thankful for and asking what you are thankful for!
This week I’m thankful for my husband, I never in a million years saw this amazing life coming after Mark passed away (my first husband. ) I can’t help but smile when I think of our amazing life together so far and how much more amazing the future will be. More than that, I’m thankful that I’m excited about today. I want to go home and see him, I’m excited to just sit on the couch and watch hockey. I love to cook with him and doing the dishes are even tolerable if he is with me.
He is so protective of me and while sometimes it can be a little over the top, I love it. Its so nice to have someone looking out for me and so crazy concerned for me that he gets mad if I forget my phone. I love that he is already making plans with how we are going to ‘deal with boys’ in Apple’s future. Once again however he is focused on the now and makes sure that when he comes home from work he takes a few min just to play with her.
I’m thankful for his encouragment in all my healthy endevors (Running, racing, Essential oils and Melaleuca) as well as my life endevors (photography, simplifying.) I am just so darn blessed!
In my opinion Mac and I are still in the ‘easy’ stage of parenting. Right now Apple is only 4 months old and we are for all practical purposes in control. She isn’t in any activities, we don’t have to punish or make rules for her to follow, none of the hard stuff. However I’m already seeing what a big impact parenting has on our marriage.
We have had to make decisions about immunizations, medication, what we are willing to subject Apple to (meaning temperature, noise levels, places and such) how many layers she needs on at night and if she needs one blanket or two on the car seat. While they all seem trivial I think some of these decisions are harder than ones we will face in the future.
I know that we will be confronted with MANY things I don’t see coming but I also know that on many of the big things we are on the same page. The priority of school, respecting your elders, manors, our faith and values and so forth.
I can also see how it has affected our communication, once again for some reason I can’t figure out we have gone back to assuming the worst of each other. We take things as a personal attack and jump to conclusions its made some conversations very difficult. This isn’t happening all the time, but it seems to come in streaks. Its like once we start we can’t stop.
So we are stopping it, right now, we will be consciously reminding ourselves to remember positive intent in our conversations. If we are frustrated or mad with each other we will be clear and not passive aggressive. We both know that we love each other and we will try to remember that in all conversations and confrontations.