13 April 2012
By Amber
In Short Sweet Moments, Thoughts on Thursdays
I think by now we have all heard that we should date our spouse, and enjoy the little things. But what about those short moments of time we get with each other. The quick lunches, snuggling on the couch for a 30 min TV show, or cooking dinner together. These are important too.
In fact yesterday the only thing that held me together was a 25 min lunch with my hubby at Jimmy Johns. It was quick its about a 8 min walk both ways if you hit the lights wrong but it was great. Just some dedicated time with Mac. Plus it was special because he stopped just for me on his way to work!
So today I’m saying its not always the big gestures or the little things. Its those Short Sweet Moments in between too!
05 April 2012
By Amber
In Husband Challenge, MAC, Thoughts on Thursdays
Welcome to the Husband Challenge Linky Party!
How do I join?
Just write a post on your blog about what you appreciate about your husband/fiance/heck even boy-friend. Then come back here and copy and paste the link into the form below (very bottom of the post.) If you don’t have a blog that’s cool, leave a comment and let me know the same thing! Oh and here is the button to add to your posts.
What I love about Mac this month is his teamwork!
This is something that Mac is good about in general but he proved it undeniably while we were on our paintball trip and then (since this is a week late) yesterday when Cooper had to go back to the doctor.
We are pretty good about dividing up the ‘everyday’ chores to make sure they all get done. Since we both work full time, I’m a crazy runner and he loves his projects we don’t have a lot of spare time. However with a little team work it all happens.
Over the last paintball weekend he proved this even more when we divided and conqured our list of teams we needed to get photos for. Mac and I shared teams pretty evenly but when I was stuck on a field he would go do the special promo shots or team pictures and vice versa. We also shared in the driving which was great since California driving can be a little stressful….
Lastly, Cooper had a little setback with his splint and he had to be taken in to the doctor right away. Ryan started work later than me yesterday so he dropped him off and talked to the doctor. Then after work since I got off earlier I went to pick him up. It was a stressful situation made MUCH easier by team work.
I love this man!
Husband Challenge, Mac, Thoughts on
22 March 2012
By Amber
In house, Marriage, Thoughts on Thursdays
Well guys spring has sprung and with it comes home maintenance, and with that the potential for squabbling. With our busy summer last year (and another one coming up) we have a lot of projects that MUST be done this year. So in order to make sure everything gets done this year I have a plan.
First of all I made a list of the things I think we need to get done this year in Google Docs (I will express my obsession with Google Docs in another post.) Then I clicked that blue button in the upper right hand corner and shared it with my Hubby. I gave him editing rights so this way we can both add, edit, put them in order of when they should be done.
The biggest benefit of doing it this way is we are both on the same page. We both know and agree on what needs to be done, we both know what is completed and what is left. Plus we both know that some things have time constraints (i.e. adding more soft vents needs to happen before it gets too hot.)
Even if you don’t own/rent a house everyone has things that need to be done in the spring. Switching out your closets, cleaning the carpets of the winter grime, general spring cleaning and organizing.
I would HIGHLY suggest getting together with your spouse and make sure your on the same page, literally, with your spring projects. Make a list plan it out together and get going!
House, Marriage, Thoughts on Thursday
15 March 2012
By Amber
In Life, MAC, Thoughts on Thursdays
This was one of those weeks that had potential for being pretty awkward. I didn’t really want to draw a lot of attention to it but yesterday would have been Mark’s 29th birthday (for more information on Mark check out My Story.)
I’m at this weird stage in my grieving process where I don’t need to make a big deal out of his birthday in fact doing so would just make it harder, but at the same time its there and I know it is. I could tell it was bugging me a little when I managed to leave my house with my breakfast shake sitting on the counter, left a dog in a cast without toys to preoccupy him and with only 1/2 my make up on. Not a shining morning for me.
I had reminded Mac of the date the night before and he was so sweet asking if I was ok and if he could do anything. I told him it was fine so far I just wanted to let him know. Through out the day I had my moments but over all I held it together, once I got home I found out that Mark’s parents had sponsored their local Christian radio station for the day in his honor. That touched me, I went upstairs told Mac and he had the perfect reaction “Are you ok?” Yes, it was just so perfect for them to do that I think they did it last year too. Then he hugged me. It was perfect, simple and not at all awkward.
I’m so blessed.
Life, Mac, Mark, Thoughts on Thursday
08 March 2012
By Amber
In Thoughts on Thursdays
On Tuesday when I was talking about how Marriage is Special I posted a video about 2 people who went into their marriage knowing it was going to be a short one, but still very much in love. You can see the groom showing his love with actions, sitting beside her on a hard day. Going to Chemo treatments with her, and by saying yes when a dying girl asked him to marry her. Wow.
But I also referenced what I’m going to talk about today.
Marriage needs both harmony and unison
There are a few ways you can look at this I’m going to start with the one my Dad was talking about in Church on Sunday. A Christian marriage should start in unison, you should both come in to the marriage as believers and on the same page about your faith. With this common foundation you start your marriage in unison. As you progress through your marriage you can build harmony, working together with common beliefs but as separate people. Because lets face it we as men and women are different and well that is a good thing. If we all acted exactly the same the world would be off balance to say the least. Imagine a world of all men… it wouldn’t workout would it? Well neither would a world of all women, which is why we have both. We can both work together in our own special ways to:
I’m NOT saying that if you don’t believe in God you cant make beautiful music not in the least. Your just singing a different song, but all the basics are the same. If you come into the marriage with the same core foundations then you are in unison. If you come in with different core beliefs but your in harmony then you can work together to achieve unison.
Personally I believe to have a strong successful marriage (I’m talking the real emotional, life shared marriage, not the kind where you just co-exist) you need to come into it together with the same beliefs what ever they may be. So go and make beautiful music!
Thoughts on Thursday
