Right now EVERYONE is posting their daily thanks on facebook and writing posts on their blogs. I love it, but I wonder why we don’t do it all year? I know that is the point of our modern Thanksgiving, but how would our life be different if we took time everyday to think of the things we are grateful for? Well I can’t hold us all accountable for every day but I can check in every month!
So that is what I’m going to do, I’ll post on the things I’m thankful for the rest of this month and then from now on once a month I’ll be checking in and sharing what I’m thankful for and asking what you are thankful for!
This week I’m thankful for my husband, I never in a million years saw this amazing life coming after Mark passed away (my first husband. ) I can’t help but smile when I think of our amazing life together so far and how much more amazing the future will be. More than that, I’m thankful that I’m excited about today. I want to go home and see him, I’m excited to just sit on the couch and watch hockey. I love to cook with him and doing the dishes are even tolerable if he is with me.
He is so protective of me and while sometimes it can be a little over the top, I love it. Its so nice to have someone looking out for me and so crazy concerned for me that he gets mad if I forget my phone. I love that he is already making plans with how we are going to ‘deal with boys’ in Apple’s future. Once again however he is focused on the now and makes sure that when he comes home from work he takes a few min just to play with her.
I’m thankful for his encouragment in all my healthy endevors (Running, racing, Essential oils and Melaleuca) as well as my life endevors (photography, simplifying.) I am just so darn blessed!
What can you really say about an anniversery that hasn’t been said before?
I love being married to Mac! This year has been great. I feel like we are really starting to figure this out. I fully expect it to be a life time of learning but I think we have the basics down at this point. Well the basics for just us…now that we are adding a little one….
Well anyway here are the highlights of the past year:
We were on Huffington Post Live:
We told our family we were expecting:
We are still photographing sports even as late as May (Yep I’m about 32 weeks pregnant here):
We went on a Family Trip with Mac’s Parents to Canada for his Grandma’s 80th Birthday:
I’m really not sure what to write about today. I have lots going through my head but it all seems so basic and I’m pretty sure I”ve talked about it all before. How about instead I just let you know where Mac and I are in our marriage?
This July just before the baby is due will be our 4 year aniversery. I’m excited for that really excited, I don’t know why but it seams like we are past those initial ‘honeymoon’ years and are in the ‘real years.’ I’m not sure we really had the honeymoon years honestly since we both had been previously married but never the less 4 just seems legit for some reason.
We are finding ways that work for us, and that is what you need in a marriage. Are there some general rules, yeah dates, communication, respect and the like. But there are also parts of marriage that you have to figure out on your own. We now know ( well I’ve always known) that sometimes I just need to talk things through, even when I already know what the answer will be. However giving some warning to Mac that, that is what I need is a good idea otherwise its just frustrating for him since we already know the answer. Now just a simple “I know we will probably end up with the same answer but I really need to talk this one through” before I start hashing things out helps both of us.
We are expecting our first child, just in case you missed that. Its interesting, It hasn’t really impacted us too much yet but its starting to get real, less than 6 weeks now and well we all know that will have a dramatic effect on the marriage.
My husband is a pretty active guy if you consider the fact he has a ‘desk job.’ In years past he had been involved with softball, hockey and paintball which pretty much takes us year round. However past injuries have made it hard for him to truly exercise the last few years without more injury. Its been a crazy cycle of exercise, injury and rest.
During that whole time he has seen my success and had done a TON of research in to healthy foods, exercise plans and such. Over time we have been switching back to more whole foods and less dining out however that alone won’t do it…so last week Mac completed week one of his new exercise routine.
I really like the concept of this routine and I think it will be a good one for him to help build muscle and strength in those weak areas while still doing some cardio/fat burning. 2 days a week (back to back) he does strength then rests for a day followed by 2 days back to back of cardio, then 2 days of rest. This combined with our efforts to cut gluten and carbs, make sure we are eating whole foods as well as balancing our diet (ie eating more veggies.)
But I’ll admit the eating SUPER healthy thing has been a little challenging because while I eat healthy 90% off the time I do have some cravings and lets face it you don’t want to deny those. Luckily so far they are things like frozen yogurt (hey it could be Cold Stone ice cream) but hey even though its better than ice cream its still not great…. So how can I support Mac more?
- Make sure he has the ability to workout, I know that Mon, Tues, Thurs, Friday he needs to have 30-60 min of free time to do his workouts. I want to make sure he can by taking care of a few things around the house.
- Encourage and help make healthy meals and snacks. I can help by making sure some snacks are easily available like cutting up veggies or other things that take a little prep.
- Keep my cravings to myself as much as possible, eat them at work or on my own.
- Keep working out and eating healthy myself, that way its easy to continue to encouraging him!
- When he wants to eat something unhealthy don’t nag…but do encourage reasonable portions.
Ok so this week I’m going to walk through my Aspirations for 2013 in each of the major areas I talk about on the blog:
Yesterday I told you that my word for 2013 is better. I don’t mean it in the crazy I must be better than everyone else sort of way but more of the make better choices, do better than last year sort of way. I hope that become clear as I walk through my marriage and family aspirations for 2013.
This is going to be a crazy year, and with all the crazyness I don’t want to take Mac for granted. This year I want to do better at finding ways of letting Mac know I love/appreciate/respect him. I want to continue to do some publicly on the blog with the Husband challange linky on the last Thursday of every month (Jan 31st this month.) But also just find ways around the house to acknowlage it as well.
I also want to make sure that Family stays a priority in my life. I didn’t make it down to Iowa as much as I wanted last year and would like to make more of and affort. I know travel might not be the easiest this year but I can at least do better on making birthday cards am sending those out, phone calls and keeping up with everyone on Facebook. I want to do better at staying in contact and seeing my family.
I want to do better at ‘date nights’ this year. We all know they are good for your marriage, so why don’t we do them? My parents do pretty much every Friday night! All I want to do is 1 date out to do whatever, dinner, movie, show a nice walk downtown to see the sights anything. It doesn’t have to be expensive or even cost money it just has to be intentionally together.
So there you have it my 3 marriage/family aspirations for 2013:
This year I want to do better at finding ways of letting Mac know I love/appreciate/respect him.
I want to do better at staying in contact and seeing my family.
I want to do better at ‘date nights’ this year.