Thoughts on Thursday {A sue happy nation}

Ok this is about as soap box as I get but it’s been on my mind for a while and I just can’t get past it….America, what happened? We are living to be offended, looking for the next thing we can sue for, trying to be discriminated against for the slightest thing.

This post may take on a silly edge but I assure you I’m not laughing I’m just trying not to point out any one specific group in order to not start a fire storm here. Oh forget it I have one specific example;  the guy who threw a fit about there being only 1 napkin in his meal and then turned it into a discrimination suit when the manager referred to him as ‘you people.’ Now I won’t pretend to know what specifically he meant by that phrase but there are many possibilities and the most logical to me isn’t a race its ‘the crazy group of customers who will fly off the handle about the smallest thing.’  I say this as a former fast food employee and one all to framiler with this segment of the population. Have we ever stopped to think that maybe we are looking to be offended? The pledge of allegiance doesn’t say under God because its forcing religion on anyone, it says that because back in the day the forefathers made their rules and governments based on the principals they had at that time, which happened to come from the Bible and well, God. Its not a religious statement its a historical fact. Growing up if there was a book being read at school that my parents didn’t want me reading they simply asked the teacher to give me another book (I scared easily) they didn’t force the whole class to change books. If there were restaurants or stores who sold products or dressed in a way we didn’t agree with we didn’t shop there, we didn’t sue them for ruining our children. I was raised fully aware that people had different opinions and views and that they wouldn’t always align with mine. When did this change?  In a move towards tolerance I think we have strayed a bit. I’m not saying we didn’t have problems in the 80′s and 90′s I’m just saying that back then if someone said they were being discriminated against for their ____ (race, religion, sex, sexual orientation) they probably were. These days by my best guess of the stories we see in the news (not real life the news which is COMPLETELY different than real life)  its a 50/50 chance of it being a story like the one above, someone searching to be wronged. How does this apply to me personally? Well I am a Christian, but I will not be lumped in to what the media has decided to portray Christians as (think crazy churches who protest everything that looks at them cross-eyed.) I have my beliefs and my values and I will live them out with out looking to be offended by those who don’t agree.

Silence in a noisy world. {The Devine Commodity}

I’m reading a new book “The Devine Commodity” by Skye Jethani. I’m only into the 2nd chapter but I’ve already found some great talking points. Here is the first one I came across that I wanted to share.

“One of the main problems is that in this chatty society, silence has become a very fearful thing. For most people, silence creates itchiness and nervousness” -Nouwen “As a result we’ve been conditioned to avoid silence at all cost less we be confronted with our own inner chaos. We manage to drown out the inner noise of our souls with the exterior noise of the world”-Skye’s commentary (Pg. 33-34)


While I realize this is most people these days, it really feels like this was written about me. I ALWAYS have something going on in the background, music, TV an audio, so does Mac. I will admit some of this is conscious distraction (when I run) but most of it is because I’m uncomfortable with silence. Why? Is there something wrong with silence? No, but a lot of people don’t like to get in their own heads and I’ve come to the conclusion in my own life that, that isn’t a good thing. How many time have I been asked my opinion, or asked why I have an opinion and not know the answer. Why do I get anxious about money things and have to be in control of them? Have I ever really taken the time to analyze that? No. Why not? Well I might have to address some things I don’t want to, and that is scary. That won’t happen if I keep my life noisy though.

When I run I purposefully distract myself so that I can ignore the little voice in my head saying, this is stupid just stop now. Am I missing the  voice that says, Hey lady your tensing up your shoulders knock it off  or ooh you calves hurt maybe you need to stretch them out after this run…am I risking injury? Yes.

So I’m taking baby steps to re-introduce silence into my life, starting with a run, 1 mile of silence then music. It went pretty well but I found my brain finding things to distract myself with anyway. Scouting out photo shoot locations for example, but I kept trying to reign it in and focus on my body and how it was feeling. My goal was simply not to injure myself as I start running again. Today I did another 2 mile run, with NO MUSIC. I increased my pace by 48 seconds per mile (I was pushing harder to be fair) but I was also paying attention. Yep my legs feel good I can keep going at this pace, ooh that is a headwind to worry if you slow down a bit, yikes my shoulders are up by my ears RELAX!

Now on to more serious matters…taking on my brain…maybe some silence in the car????

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Thoughts on Thursday {Thankful}

Fall is here….
Thanksgiving is coming…
I’m home for 6 weeks with my girls….
It all has me a bit reflective.

10 things I’m thankful for right now

1. God, enough said. 
2. My husband, man is he amazing. (Cooking, cleaning, helping with the girls supporting me in clean eating and showing me soo much love!
3. Two Children, there was a time I thought the ‘perfect family’ was an impossibility, God is bigger than me.
4. Local Family, they are amazing not only taking the girls when we need but tagging along to silly little things to support me and the girls. Come back next week for more on one of those silly little things, Apples first ‘race.’ 
5. Iowa Family, not only do they drive up here at the drop of a hat to meet Gummy Bear, but they cook clean and finish projects while they are in town. Then when we come down they make time in their busy schedule to come meet her with only a weeks notice.
6. Running, not only is it great exercise its an amazing stress reliever for me.
7.My friends, They aren’t just fun, they are there for me when I need and say the hard things that need to be said.
8. 6 Weeks off, I’m blessed enough to have a job with paid sick/vacation time and smart enough to have short term leave. Between those two things I was able to have the last 6 weeks off with Gummy Bear paid. 
9. Our house, not only are we lucky enough to be able to own a home, but I have had 3 terrible renting experiences so that makes it even better. 
10.  Great day care, Seriously you have no idea how great it is to drop off your child somewhere and leave without a worry. 

1st run back {After baby #2}

My mom asked me yesterday what my plan was for my first run….I didn’t have one really I just wanted to lace up my shoes and get out the door, and that I did.

Snapshot of my first run post baby. Thumbs Up

As soon as my feet hit the ground I was smiling, I didn’t know what to expect after 2 months off. My legs felt strong and my head instantly cleared, I was in the zone. I remembered why I run, not only for fitness but for sanity, to look around me and really take in the big world God created. Even though I live in the city I can see it in the trees, the sky and the river… even the other people on the trails. Its easy to get distracted by music or for me audio books but when I’m training I try to take at least 1 run a week with no headphones to really pay attention to what is around me and also to my body (to make sure nothing hurts,) and my form (to make sure I don’t hurt anything.)

The first 1/2 mile I thought I would be able to do a 5k,  I probably could have, but then my brain kicked in and I realized that wouldn’t be smart. I need some time to make sure everything is working again. I caught myself tensing up my shoulders (an old bad habit)  and started focusing on that. Next I need to make sure I’m in control of my pacing and then I’ll start building up my distance and speed again.

My current goal is just to get running again I have a 5k at the end of the month (that I signed up for before I knew I was pregnant.) After that speed training next season I’m going to work on 5 and 10k’s and speed!

So my non professional advice for coming back after some time off? Don’t be afraid to start running again, just start slow and monitor yourself.

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Bullying in the green world.

I’m trying to live my life as green as my situation and priorities allow, however in this modern world its easy to fall into the convenience trap. However I’ve chosen not to get down on myself when it happens. I’ve seen a lot of negativity on some of the chat boards and Facebook groups I’m in when someone uses modern conveniences vs a greener product/method/food. Honestly I’m sick of it, I’m sick of all the negativity, I’m tired of hearing people say they are leaving a group after being attacked. Its just silly, we live in a modern world and short of moving out to the bush and living off the land, there is no getting away from that.
I don’t understand the point of exposing our kids to the chemicals in disposable diapers, but do I use them? Yes sometimes I do, and its ok, I make the best product choices I can (no bleach, less chemicals) and only use them when I have to (mainly with teething diaper rashes.) I prefer to take care of colds and other illnesses with oils and healthy eating habits, however sometimes it just doesn’t cut it and I go get an antibiotic or take some acetaminophen. We eat the best we can with as little processed foods as is reasonable for our life however we did eat out today at a fast food place and you know what its ok. I’ve even committed the cardinal sin a time or two of forgetting my cloth bags….and you know what? I wasn’t struck by lighting.

Why can’t we be supportive of each other? Why is a paper bag a reason to have 20 people attack you in a group? Why can’t we just all understand that living the perfect green life isn’t possible and that is ok?  I

‘ve found that while the internet can be an amazing tool, it is also a great way for people to hide behind a made up identity or anonymous name and attack others. If we were kids this would be called bullying and there are a lot of anti-bullying campaigns going around. How come its ok for adults to bully but not kids? So what about my non green friends? I must have great ones because I’ve never gotten any flack for my choices from any of them.

How can we stop this? I can’t, not really, I’m talking about other adults here, I can’t tell them what to do or say. I can make sure that I’m not part of the problem though. I will choose not to comment negatively to others, I will not add fuel to the fire by calling out those rude people on their rudeness (man does that take a bad post down a deep hole quickly.) I’ll start with encouraging others and hopefully more will follow.

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